I think one of the tough things about life is that constant dissonance between our internal and external realities.
Like deep down, you always sort of know what you want and what you need and what you expect out of life to a certain extent. It’s kinda like love. It’s kinda fuzzy and unclear. Maybe you don’t have the right words to explain it. But you know when you feel it. You know when it’s right.
But it’s not just about love with a person, right? It’s about all the various aspects of our lives. We’re chasing that feeling everywhere.
And I think one of the challenges we run into is that we’re not always provided the right knowledge or the right tools or the right pathway for getting there.
Especially because there’s a lot of false advertising out there.
A lot of paths and truths that are presented to us seem like good ideas at the time. They seem like the right strategies for giving us the life that we want. But there’s also an inherent falsehood to this very premise.
Because any sort of pre-packaged path for you is fundamentally not going to be the perfect fit. Everyone is unique from their nature and nurture. And in the end, the only true path will be the one that you pave yourself. No one will be able to provide it for you. Or if they do and you take it, you eventually find it to be deeply unsatisfying.
And that dissatisfaction comes from that dissonance between your internal and external reality. Your internal reality knows that something is up. Your external reality might look good on the surface. It might look good on Instagram. But that dissatisfaction will remain. You can cover it up in a myriad of ways. (Mmm… whiskey….) But you’ll always know it’s there.
That’s sort of how reality works anyway. It’s physics, probably. There isn’t one truth. Everyone has their own truth. Their own reality.
One of the things my sister, Nina, always talks about is how we enter this world totally aligned with that truth.
When you’re a kid, all you know is your own reality.
But then you smarten up, and you’re contending with the multitude of realities that society presents: Girls. Sneakers. Girls. Grades. Girls. Friends. Girls. Sports. Girls. Family. Girls. Bullies. Girls. Video games. Girls. AOL Instant Messenger. Girls. SATs. Girls. College. Girls. Parties. Girls. Job. Girls. Boss. Girls. Family. Girls. Money. Girls. Money. Girls. Money. Girls. Money. Girls. Hair loss. Girls.
(Look, chill, this is from my perspective. Boys are kewl, too. Or you know, like, you do you, whatever.)
Anyway, the pressures of those other realities can be overwhelming. By puberty, you’ve probably lost sight of your own truth.
Of course, over time, the hope is that you wisen up. Because that’s part of the process, too. Experiencing those other realities. It’s how you learn. It’s how you experience. It’s how you empathize. It’s how you fail. And it’s how you get up again. Losing yourself is just as important as finding yourself.
(Vahe and I like to joke about how you can never trust someone who’s never “lost” himself. Like, our idealized human is the so-called reformed rockstar. The guy who danced with the devil, maybe for a little too long, but ultimately looked him in the eyes, and said, naw, it’s kewl man, and found God. Whoever your God may be, of course. Cuz there are a lot of people out there who have been playing “God” their whole lives, but never actually lived. The theory goes is that they’ve never been truly tested. They haven’t gone through the process. They might crack at any moment. Because they’re still faking it.)
So yeah, where was I going with this.
I met Yong-Soo in SF while I was at Ripple. Before that, he worked on Wall Street.
From my vantage point, Yong-Soo’s always been the type of guy who’s got it all figured it out even as he was figuring things out. By the time he was at Ripple, dude was already a home owner. In SF!!! Like, the hardest place in the world to be a homeowner.
Anyway, at one point Yong-Soo found love (hi Sandy!!) and also ends up quitting his job to start his own thing. (And I tend to believe that it’s usually not a coincidence that finding your own truth tends to manifest itself in your work and your relationships at similar times. I think the woo woo term for such coincidences is synchronicity.)
One of the themes I found myself focusing on last year with videos in particular were just people who were fighting to discover their own truth, pave their own path—versus settling for the pre-packaged paths presented for them—like Vahe, for instance, or even Sharukh to a certain extent (although that story hasn’t been fully told in that way yet).
And typically, it’s an even harder fight because many of these people are somewhat pre-disposed for success no matter what path they end up taking. And so finding your truth involves a lot of initial sacrifice, a lot of risk.
But that’s pretty much what happens with Yong-Soo. At some point, he decides that he’s found the necessary confidence to make that jump. And off he goes, looking for his own truth, paving his own path.
It’s funny cuz at the time, he was telling me about his new company, called Urban EDC Supply. And for the longest time, I thought he was selling gear for EDM festival ravers, lol.
Anyway, back in August, I was in LA, just chillin, you know. And Yong-Soo happened to be in town with his wife, Sandy.
Also in tow was their adorable french bulldog, Humphrey, who, these days, is a legit celebrity. And I mean a legit celebrity. Like, he’s way more famous than all of you. (Prob more rich, too.)
And in becoming so, has become a vibrant part of Yong-Soo’s new path.
So, of course, we hang, and I decided to shoot a video.
Check it out.